Your fantasies are desperately trying to tell you something

At our core, we long to be known, inside and out, and not found wanting. Getting to that core is another story.

Advice Column

Are you weird, bad, or deviant for liking what you like? Nope. It's a simple pattern of behavior, your psyche trying to establish balance. Read the Letters here.

Courses and Webinars

From empowerment workshops, discovering your erotic nature, and Fetish 101 classes, our team of collaborators is dedicated to education through PLAY.


Too busy to take a course or write a letter? No problem. We're constantly building bite-sized videos you can watch on the run.

I’m Devora Gray. With over ten years as a sex consultant, my mission is to teach you that fantasies are the key to a fulfilling life. With videos, sexual advice, and online workshops, I’m dedicated to helping you discover:

  • Why you want what you want
  • How to talk about it, and…
  • What Play looks like in the real world.
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Dear Sweet & Low Advice

When you decode the fantasy, you experience the reality.

So You Want to Be a Dominatrix

“Don’t quit your day job” is a catch-all when it comes to BDSM, not because a nice girl can't have the chops or beat down a 250-pound man. Most folks getting into kink want passion, excitement, and a break from boring. It’s quite the mindf**k when a sweet-looking girl turns out to be methodically dirty, sadistic, and cruel.

The Size Queen Weighs In on SPH

The desire to be humiliated is pretty common. A child may think he is the only one who feels this way. For adolescents and young men, it just gets worse, especially if they were never given proper sex education. It is a natural response to develop a humiliation fantasy as a coping mechanism.

The Rules of Roleplay

Here are some roleplay rules to keep you on the path of playful enlightenment. For most, talking about their sexual fantasies elicits the same anxiety as public speaking or dreaming of going to school in underpants. Your place in the scope of time and space is a precarious thing. So why not have fun with it?


Why do we fantasize? What do our dreams say about us? What if we could tap into the power of our deepest desires without dismantling the security of the life we've built? There is always a way. A sex consultant can help.
Devora Gray offers sex consultation workshops

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Courses, Workshops, Webinars, Keynote Speaking
Devora Gray offers one-on-one sex consultations

One-on-One Consultations

Fantasy Analysis and personalized coaching
Custom Audio Recordings

Custom Audio Recordings

Guided Meditation, Hypnosis, Fantasy Roleplay Scripts
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Books & Writing

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